How do you deal with a yeller? Like a rude land lord or boss?

Lived in an apartment who's management liked to yell. There are some folks in this world who act this way and thankfully not many, but how do you deal with these people when you have to deal with theme? I moved out after about two years but I want to learn how to deal with such people in the future. When I could I ignored or fained disinterest but some times we have to deal with such people.

Answer: Be over nice, it winds the hell out of them

How do you deal with frustration in a healthy way?

Have used alcohol, drugs, self-mutilation, sex, anger to deal with life for the last ten years. I have been in and out of abusive relationships all of my life. I am having an extremely hard time just dealing with life and just staying sober and sane. I know I need to learn better ways to deal with issues but I feel like I like I am more ready to self-destruct know more than ever. Being sober is difficult and I don't even see the point most of the time. Please help.

Answer: I have a lot of compassion for women in your position. And what I can tell you is that you've been control ed for these 10 long hard years. The first thing you need to know is that it isn't your fault. If nor thing else helps, though from a stranger, I can genuinely say that I love you. God loves you, and doesn't make junk. And he wants you well. Don't associate god with those men. He's nor thing like them. What I have done to strengthen myself out (and not everyone can do this), is isolated myself to discover me again. Throughout my life, I have always been told to act this way, talk this way, apply this principle, use this line... When in all actuality, it was teaching me to ignore myself and do what made other es happy. This is going to sound crazy coming from a christian, but this is the time to get selfish. Move. Change your phone number. Leave town. Don't tell anyone. Get your own place. Help yourself before helping anyone else. Find out what makes you happy. Make your house a home for you, and only you for now. Get a rink dink job that pays the rent, feeds you, puts gas in the car, and insurance on it. I'm serious. Just freakin' disappear. Tell no one, and just go. This is a time for you. Once you have learned how you like things for yourself, you will change like I did. You won't take any guff from anyone, and you won't let them cross the line. Another thing. Close the gaps in your psyche that allow people to drain you of your energy and spiritual resources. That leads to them stealing everything else from you. Close all doors that lead to you. You will know when to open them again. God is with you. Know that!

How do you deal with family? While submersed in debt with them and try to deal with their emotional drama?

Vin with the relative but also dealing not only with their family emotional roller coaster but also facing the real world to deal with your debt in this tough economy. What's's the best thing to do to ignore the emotional drama with relatives while living in the same roof. Any suggestions anyone...? Feel trapped

Answer: To be honest, families can poison themselves with drama. Try to be out of the house as much as possible, or sleeping if you can. Walk, go to the library, hang out with friends, volunteer, anything. If you are exhausted from work, have gone through the options i've listed, and feel like you have to stay home, try to create your own space in the house that people know is yours. Be it the bedroom you have, or a small room in the house that no one really uses, make it your own. Get some headphones and listen to music and read, or listen to educational tracks to learn a new language or skill that will help you get ahead at work and get a little pay raise. If none of this works, and you can't live with the drama, you owe it to yourself to find another place to live. If you can't afford it, and none of your friends will take you in, look for government subsidized housing in your area for low income earners. Good luck!

How do you deal with nerves? Or how would you deal with someone who is nervous?

Times in my life, on the phone and in interviews and in talking to people, I have gotten nervous. So nervous I cannot get the words out and jump in and talk. I do not mean to do this. How do you deal with nerves when you have anxiety issues? Or how would you, as a professional, deal with someone who was nervous?

Answer: If you get nervous, consciously slow yourself down. Your thoughts, your speech, etc. Just remind yourself to be confident (or at least act like it) and focus not on how nervous you are but on how you portray yourself. If I was a professional dealing with someone who is nervous, I would just remind them to relax, slow down, and be confident.

How to deal with a severely paranoid person?

Have one in my family. I'm at a loss to know how to go about dealing with this. It's taking all of the patience I possess to be able to deal with her. I'm trying to be patient, graceful, merciful, and everything else - but I do struggle with this. Most people she meets figures out the pattern of victimization and paranoia that she imposes on herself. Anyway, any thoughts or suggestions?

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